It’s been a while since I’ve connected with you. I apologize for my absence. For the past year, I’ve been pursuing some professional goals: working as a magazine editor, publishing a book; Genuinely Georgetown (http://www.genuinelygeorgetown.com/), both requiring speaking engagements and book signings, working on a book for moms, and finally, seeing a child off to college.
But all the while, I’ve been thinking of you and my calling to encourage you. I’m glad to be back with a post for the first day of 2014. I’d like to start by encouraging you to try new things.
5 Ways To Do It Differently
Sometimes as moms, we get stuck in a rut; doing the same dishes, driving the same route to work, getting up and going to bed at the same time. Why not try something new because variety keeps life interesting. Here’s a few ideas:
Spread out a blanket and have dinner outdoors.
Get up before the kids and have coffee or a walk with a friend before the busy day begins.
Ask your kids to memorize the way to school and have them be your GPS as you drive.
Have a no-cook night. Invite your friends with children over for potluck dinner. You provide the dinnerware and a movie, they provide the food.
Read a magazine you’ve never read before: try outdoors and fishing or crochet and paper crafts—something you wouldn’t normally read. You may find new subjects to peak your interest.
Think of other ways you can climb out of the pit and add spark to your life! Happy New Year!
If you are an adult child of an alcoholic, addict or a dysfunctional parent, it is understandable if parenting scares you to death. Growing up in a chaotic and unpredictable environment would make most of us feel unsure and frightened. And these feelings don’t go away just because we grow up. Becoming a mother can even magnify those fears. You may wonder, “I don’t know what normal looks like. How do I show my love for my children? How can I raise a child when I don’t know the answers?”
Few mothers delve into parenting knowing exactly what to do. Much of our mothering, especially in the early years, comes from instinct. Don’t underestimate it. The rest comes by way of learning from others and old-fashioned trial and error. But most important is our reliance upon God who promises to give us wisdom and guidance.
Despite your unsure or fearful feelings, you can do this job well–not perfectly, because that’s impossible–but well.
What things do you wish you knew before becoming a mother? Chime in. Just think, your experience and wisdom could help another mother (or mother-to-be). Here are a few things that would have helped me:
I wish I had known that. . .
1. I would be tempted to worry about many things but most of what mothers worry about never happen.
2. Children are more capable than I realized. Give them room to take safe risks and let them learn from their stumbles.
3. My child is not me. He will not have exactly the same needs as I do.