Imperfectly Different


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I remember when I was in the fourth grade our teacher had us draw mountains. Most of my classmates colored their mountains brown. A few colored theirs purple. I wanted my mountains to look different from anyone else’s so I peeked at their drawings and chose colors they hadn’t used. My turquoise mountains were pretty but looked nothing like the real thing.
When you became a mother, dear one, you vowed to do things differently than the adults in your childhood. Maybe your dad was never home for dinner or went missing for days. Maybe you left for school in the morning with no breakfast and no prospects for lunch. So as an adult running your own home, you threaten your husband if he’s not home by 6:00 pm and you pack a lunch box for your child big enough to feed the entire fifth grade class.
While deciding not to repeat dysfunction from our childhoods, we can go so overboard that our homes take on a Stepford Wives feel rather than an authentic one with natural imperfections. Striving so hard to do things differently can take on obsessive tones that drive the family nuts. Certainly improve upon the past dear one. This is an admirable goal. But leave room for spontaneity and the sweet surprises that result. Your children won’t be damaged if dad arrives home after dinner or if little Ashley eats lunch in the cafeteria. Relax.
Scripture: To all perfection I see a limit; but your commands are boundless. Psalm 119:96

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6 thoughts on “Imperfectly Different

  1. Our devotion this morning (of course, verses have escaped me entirely) was about how God takes even our mistakes and makes them a part of the beautiful tapestry He is weaving with our lives. Even my worst mistakes, He can turn weave into a part of something lovely. Redemption is all-encompassing!!

    This was a good reminder sweet woman!

  2. Thanks Alicea for drawing us back to the heart of God in our everyday living. As a young mother it was very easy for me to become so legalistic in life. In support of that, with newborns and toddlers you have to maintain structure in order to succeed with its demands, diaper changes, feedings, naps, (and don’t forget reading instructions to ensure that you put the diaper on correctly :-). But there is a happy medium. It took a while for me to not react to every situation with such intensity (obsession), and the lesson that I must still press toward attaining even today is to be “active” rather than “reactive.” Actively seeking God’s way, His peace, and, His Word.
    Charisse

    • Diapers come with instructions? Now you tell me! Thank you so much for your encouraging words to moms on being active rather than reactive. Whew, it’s a much more relaxed approach.

  3. I’ve been down that obsessive road and your right, no one benefited from it…not even me. The other issue I had parenting that way was that I was always looking in my past…and that was depressing. I decided to make my standard for parenting the Word of God. It can be lived up to and there’s grace for my failures and mistakes built into it. Also, looking to the Word means letting go of those things behind me and pressing forward…
    Thanks for this word Alicea!

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